The paramita of renunciation is often thought of as giving up something tangible in life. In the sutras the word nekkhamma is usually translated as “renunciation.” It’s about renouncing the world and becoming a monk or nun. But, it applies to the lay life as well. According to Webster’s Dictionary, renunciation simply means, to “refrain or abstain.”
Sylvia Boorstein wrote, “I find it more helpful to think of renouncing the habitual patterns of mind that keep me enslaved more than renouncing a particular lifestyle. Perhaps that’s because at those times in my life when I have needed to make a choice in terms of a more skillful lifestyle or habit, my experience has been that my strong decision to make a change made the actual changing fairly easy. It’s been much harder for me to change the habits of my heart.”
What does renunciation mean to us as laypeople? It’s about letting go of whatever binds us in ignorance and suffering. The Buddha taught that genuine renunciation requires thoroughly knowing how we make ourselves unhappy with our grasping and greed. Renunciation is a positive and liberating action, not a punishment. Nobody’s making us do something. Over time we begin to understand that giving in to craving is a great hindrance not only to enlightenment, but to living in contentment… we begin to see things as they really are and also begin get it that grasping for and attachment to the things we crave is only a temporary fix, because attachment also binds us to our suffering.
